I was clearing my memos in my blackberry phone yesterday and I came across this memo that says, “Important, please memorise”
I was wondering what could be so important that I need to memorise it. It is my wedding vows! I started having some flashbacks of my wedding vows. I did not choose my own customised wedding vows because I guess I kind of like the idea that vows are more traditional? Or rather I was afraid if i did customised my own vows, I might miss out on some important parts of a wedding vow.
I remember my hubby was very stressed when he need to memorise the vows. It was in english and he was not so confident that he can remember it. So whilst doing our last minute wedding preparation, both of us were busy memorising vows. That was pretty stressful for us and we were like thinking maybe we should change it to a simpler version.
Anyway my hubby was really smart, he was able to memorise it much faster than me! The last night before our big wedding day, oh ya…we are still testing one another on our vows. I really did not want to hold a piece of paper and read it loud. I want it to be from my heart.
On my big day while I was doing my bridal make-up, I have so many things going on in my mind and I was still memorizing the vows.
So a word of advice to couples who are preparing for their wedding at this moment, there is no harm to start memorising your vows now! After all it is a vow that will stay with you for the rest of your life!
Some vows are funny while some are downright romantic. I guess for us as a couple we still prefer the traditional way of making promises to one another. A funny vow does not seem to match our relationship and we are also not a very romantic couple. haha! But if you like to have your own funny or romantic vows, by all means! The most important thing is that it must represent your love for one another and not be fake about it. Do not choose a vow that is funny just for the sake of entertaining the guests. Choose a vow that both of you will feel good about it.
I, Tan Xiaofen Amber, take you, Timotius Michael Litha,to be my wedded husband to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish and to obey, as long as we both live, according to God’s holy ordinance; and thereto I give you my love.
Exchange ring vow
With this ring I wed you – it is a token of the vows I have made to you – with it I will myself and all my worldly goods endow to you – in the sight of God the father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen!
I love you without knowing how, or when or from where. I love you straight forwardly, without complexities or pride…Loving what I know of you, and trusting what I do not yet know… Home is wherever you are…I love you not for what you are but what you are when I’m with you…
If you are preparing for your wedding, have fun choosing your wedding vows.
If you are already married, have fun trying to remember your wedding vows.
P.S. – One year after our wedding, I asked my husband if he still remember the vows. Guess what? Both of us totally forget about it. :p yeah that is marriage.